“Beware of false prophets, which come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravening wolves.” … – Matthew 7:15-16

Bishop Thomas Weeks III and nationally known “prophetess” Juanita Bynum were married in a lavish, million-dollar televised wedding at a hotel on Wall Street in 2002. They had 80 people in their wedding party and 900 guests.

Just six months into their marriage they began hosting a marriage series and were fast becoming one of the most influential black Christian couples in the U.S.

Bynum’s loud and aggressive “bulldog” preaching style combined with the mentorship of Bishop T.D. Jakes catapulted her into stardom. In 1999, she addressed a crowd of 80,000 women at Jakes’ “Woman, Thou Art Loosed” Conference.

Juanita Bynum and Bishop Thomas Weeks III wed.

But something happened to Juanita Bynum’s fairytale. The golden couple split up. Then the dream became a nightmare.

According to Bynum, she was recently beaten, choked and stomped by her estranged husband, Weeks, outside an Atlanta hotel.

The alleged beating received plenty of national media coverage. Subsequently, Bynum held a press conference announcing that she had found a new “God-given” purpose. With a dramatic show of vulnerability and hubris, she said, “Domestic violence has a new name and face, and it’s Juanita Bynum.”

This sad series of events begs these questions:

  1. How does a fairytale marriage of a powerful Christian couple turn out to be a marriage from hell?

  2. How can Juanita Bynum be the poster child for domestic abuse before we know the truth about her role in this altercation?

There can be only one possible reason why this marriage ended the way it did. Neither Bishop Weeks III nor Juanita Bynum are “born again,” and God did not call them to be his ministers.

I submit to you that there’s no way a man of God would beat his wife, as Weeks is alleged to have done.

And if Juanita were truly a woman of God, she would not use her marital problems for personal gain – or use the media to destroy her husband.

At her press conference, Bynum stated, “My focus is not the marriage. My focus is … to accomplish a new purpose [domestic violence cause] that God has given me.”

Bynum then attended a fundraising event for Barack Obama where she planned to discuss her domestic abuse concerns with the candidate. Oprah Winfrey hosted the event at her estate in California.

And why would a woman of God go to the government, especially to a liberal Democrat like Obama, to address a spiritual sickness?

I’m sure it won’t be long before we see Bynum on “Oprah” dressed in pink and with just the right lighting to make her appear soft, vulnerable and innocent.

Despite the propaganda spread by radical feminists, the reality is numerous studies have shown that women are as physically aggressive or more aggressive than men in their relationships.

Of course, on the whole, men are physically larger and stronger than women and therefore are more likely to kill than be killed in an altercation with a female.

However, according to FBI homicide statistics published by the American Medical Association, in some urban areas the rate of female-to-male spousal homicides actually exceeds the rate of male-to-female spousal homicides. For instance, for every 100 male-to-female spousal homicides in Detroit in 1982-1983, there were 200 female-to-male homicides. Female-to-male homicides also exceeded male-to-female in Chicago between 1965 and 1989, in Detroit in 1972 and in Houston in 1969.

My 17 years of counseling with couples and families have shown that when emotional abuse is also taken into account, most often the perpetrators are women.

The dominating and angry spirit that is within many women (until they are truly saved) drives them to destroy their marriages and corrupt children. This is a hard reality that society must acknowledge and deal with straight-up.

Ever since the original corruption of the first woman in the Garden of Eden by the serpent – and man’s failure to resist or correct her – that same malevolent spirit has been destroying the relationship between men and women. (And to this day, men continue to perpetuate women’s contempt for them by being weak, selfish and angry.)

Tragically, most ministers are so spiritually ill-equipped to deal with domestic violence that they’ll often refer their members to outside secular “experts.”

In many black churches, the message of Christ is being feminized. This is why Juanita Bynum, T.D. Jakes and others who cater to women have become so popular. Yet, it’s abnormal for a woman to be the head of her husband or the church.

The spiritual order of God is: God in Christ, Christ in man, man over woman, and woman over children.

Christians need to search their hearts about what it really means to be “born again.” Only then will they be able to reject false preachers and resist the forces that seek to destroy God’s order, and the bond between man and woman.

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