A lifestyle consists of more than just what you eat, what you wear and an exercise routine. Your lifestyle consists of moral precepts that govern your life. In other words, in addition to how you live in the material world, lifestyle also incorporates your moral compass. This is crucial if you have children. Psychologists have pointed out that the children of abusive parents often become abusers themselves. The children of alcoholics run a greater risk of becoming alcoholics than the children of parents who do not drink, and the children without a strong moral foundation are easily influenced by “new ideas.”
One of the wisest men who ever lived, the author of the Book of Proverbs, wrote, “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.” In other words, If you force a young sapling into a given direction by directing its growth, then come back years later, you will find a tree bent in that direction. Remember an old phrase, “monkey see, monkey do”? Children emulate behavior.
You cannot surf the net, pick up a paper or magazine or turn on the radio or TV without hearing about teen crime and violence. There are countless cases of drug abuse, drinking, school dropouts, teen pregnancy and gang violence. Sexually transmitted diseases are on the rise, including AIDS. There are numerous runaways, suicides, truancy and spiraling illiteracy rates.
Today’s children must learn “new ideas,” and terms like baby mamas, GLBT, gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and now partners instead of husbands and wives. For all us old, out of step diehards, here are several of these “new ideas” as revealed in a brilliant column, “What’s not to like about Ellen?” by Sandy Rios.
Call me old fashioned, but I find this unbelievable:
- In California public schools there are no longer barriers to bathrooms distinguished by gender. If a student thinks he is a girl, he can go to the girls’ bathroom.
- At Boston Children’s Hospital, a transgender clinic now administers medicine to pre-adolescent children as young as nine to stop puberty, later administering hormones to make boys into girls and girls into boys.
- Young girls at a New England conference were shown videos of how to remove healthy breasts if they “feel” they should be boys.
- School health classes are challenging students to consider whether they might be gay. One in Glen Ellyn, Ill., went so far as to suggest students try sex with a same-sex friend to find out. I can hear it now: C’mon Kinchlow, lighten up, you are overreacting! Really?!?
- (Warning: graphic content) “Kevin Jennings, founder of GLSEN (Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network) and former Obama safe schools czar (who) was the keynote speaker at a state-sponsored workshop on March 25, 2000, at Tufts University, Mass., where he described to students as young as 12 the pleasures of homosexual sex. Here is part of the transcript: “Fisting [forcing one’s entire hand into another person’s rectum or vagina] often gets a bad rap. [It’s] an experience of letting somebody into your body that you want to be that close and intimate with … [and] to put you into an exploratory mode.” (emphases added)
Is this what you want your children to learn? Should these people be responsible for shaping your children’s value system? I think not. The loss of innocence in a child is tragic beyond measure.
Our goal in this country should be the rearing of children who grow up to become secure, wise, “decision-able” individuals, with a full awareness of their right to make and be responsible for their own decisions. As parents, our goal should be to give our children a solid foundation of unchanging moral precepts and principles within a stable, yet flexible, framework of negotiable procedures. By that I mean procedures should be negotiable, but not moral precepts; for instance, coming in at 10 p.m. can be negotiable, but stealing or lying? Never. When we impart balanced, solid values to our children, they will then be able to exercise these values, regardless of their future circumstances.
Here is a sterling example of my point: A young lady I know grew up in a home where her parents taught her and her siblings strong moral values and convictions; we’ll call her “Charity.” In high school, her friends continuously ragged on her because she was still a virgin. She was not one of them and was not about to surrender to this outside pressure. Finally, as a group of girls were again deriding her about her purity, she decided, enough already! She held up her hand. “Hold it!” She stared them down and said, “Let me tell you all something. Any day of the week I choose, I can become just like any of you, but none of you can ever be like me again.” Speechless, the girls one by one drifted away. Needless to say, it was the last time anyone ever again harassed “Charity” about her virginity.
Why are we not teaching our kids personal responsibility, moral values and self-reliance? What do we think is going to be the end result of these lifestyles being created for our children? Our Judeo-Christian ethical code, the foundation of Western civilization, is the cornerstone of the American way of life. There are no civilizations presently existing that have turned away from standards of right and wrong. Without a moral compass, America is in danger of becoming a ship adrift on a sea of depravity. We have lost our bearing, and, at the current rate of drift, we shall crash headlong on the rocks of “nothing is wrong so everything is right.” Those with strong moral values must stand up and demand that the ship of state be righted and the present course corrected.
Like “Charity,” we must stand against the winds of change and declare, “Enough already!”