(NYDAILYNEWS) — New research suggests a surprising way to a healthy relationship.

There is more of a long-term benefit to having angry but honest conversations about transgressions in relationships than there is from forgiveness and kindness, experts say.

“I continued to find evidence that thoughts and behaviors presumed to be associated with better well-being lead to worse well-being among some people – usually the people who need the most help achieving well-being,” Florida State University researcher James McNulty said in a statement.

Arguments, while they may cause short-term discomfort, are normal and healthy.

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