He’s Christian, married with two children, and the lead singer of the rock group Everyday Sunday, but now Trey Pearson is making headlines for coming out of the closet and announcing he’s homosexual.
In an open letter published Tuesday in (614) Magazine, the 35-year-old says: “I grew up in a very conservative Christian home where I was taught that my sexual orientation was a matter of choice, and had put all my faith into that. I had never before admitted to myself that I was gay, let alone to anyone else. I never wanted to be gay. I was scared of what God would think and what all of these people I loved would think about me; so it never was an option for me.
“I have been suppressing these attractions and feelings since adolescence. I’ve tried my whole life to be straight. I married a girl, and I even have two beautiful little kids. My daughter, Liv, is six and my son, Beckham, is two.”
“So much of me has so much heartache that I couldn’t grow up loving myself for who I am,” he continued.
“I could not accept myself. I was so scared that God would hate me. That all of the people I loved wouldn’t see me the same way. I couldn’t allow being gay to be an option. I just hoped and prayed, with everything in me, that I could just be straight – that I could be attracted to women, and that it would all work. I tried.”
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Despite the fact the Bible overwhelmingly condemns homosexuality in both the Old and New Testaments, Pearson cited the close relationship between two male characters in ancient Israel to help calm his mind.
“I have tried not to be gay for more than 20 years of my life. I found so much comfort as a teen in 1 Samuel 18-20 and the intimacy of Jonathan and David,” he explained. “I thought and hoped that such male intimacy could fulfill that void I felt in my desire for male companionship.”
Not only is the death penalty warranted for homosexual acts in the Book of Leviticus, the apostle Paul in the New Testament blasted both male and female homosexuals:
“For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet.” (Romans 1:26-27 KJV)
In his letter, Pearson honors his wife, Lauren, noting, “When I needed her in this, she was able to hug me, and cry, and tell me how proud of me she was for being able to be honest with myself. I knew then it didn’t matter what anyone else thought, or did to me. I knew then that I had been set free.
“I am never going to be able to change how I am, and no matter how healthy our relationship becomes, it’s never going to change what I know deep down: that I am gay. Lauren has been the most supportive, understanding, loving and gracious person I could ever ask for, as I have come to face this. And now I am trying to figure out how to co-parent while being her friend, and how to raise our children.”
Pearson admits his decision to go public with his sexuality could have an impact on his musical career.
“I never wanted to just make music for Christians, or Christian radio, but I have always wanted to be honest in my music. A lot of being honest in my music is talking about my faith, but it’s also talking about all kinds of other things. I plan to continue to do all of that. I realize a lot of gate holders in that industry may want to never play my songs again, due to fear – but I also think the world is changing – and I think there are a lot of people out there that want to be a part of this conversation. So, wherever people are willing to listen to my music and my story, I will go.”
The band Everyday Sunday was founded in 1997 and has seen success with several albums, including 2009’s Best Night of Our Lives, which cracked the Billboard Top 200 list.
Pearson is not the only Christian singer who has come out of the closet recently.
As WND reported in 2014, British star Vicky Beeching announced she was a lesbian.
“What Jesus taught was a radical message of welcome and inclusion and love,” she said at the time. “I feel certain God loves me just the way I am.”
Beeching’s struggles started as a child, when she learned how to feel about homosexuality at church with her conservative Christian parents.
“It was in children’s picture books about the destruction of Sodom and Gomorrah – hailstones of fire raining down on these cities known for the ‘abomination’ of homosexuality,” Beeching told the Independent. “It was viewed as a terrible evil, the cause of the floods. I don’t think that my parents brought it up – it was just a given.”
In an interview with Britain’s Channel 4 News, Beeching said: “I’ve always kept a diary since I was really little, and I’ve noticed looking back at my diaries that they all had ‘Private,’ ‘Keep out,’ ‘Top secret’ written on them. It’s quite painful, actually, to see the things I was struggling with and just how fractured I was and the constant apologies I would make to God.
“When I was 13, I was just beside myself, sobbing into my bedroom carpet, saying to God, ‘You know, You’ve got to take my life away. I can’t actually handle this. Like I can’t be Christian and gay. These things don’t work in my family, in my universe, in my world.”
Watch Vicky Beeching go public with her lesbianism on Britain’s Channel 4:
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