In the West, generations now grow up believing that limitless sexual expressionism is the road to a fulfilled life. The new transgender fashion so far marks the highpoint. Men want to become female but retain male genitalia. Female artist Alison Moyet is cursed for stating that she wants to be addressed as a woman. To say that you are a woman when you are a woman is somehow now “an offense.” And transgender individuals who are sexually aroused by women insist on showering in the women section in gyms, because they “feel female.”
The West is all about sex. Sexual satisfaction, deviations – anything that leads up to an orgasm with men, women or whoever seems to be the ultimate goal of literature, Hollywood films and contemporary music. Yet, we constitute more than ever, it seems, a culture of loneliness and depression. Among Americans, over 50 percent now live alone. Depression has become a national epidemic, and drug abuse is rampant. Sexual exploitation of others is somehow hailed as “the path to happiness” in a culture of lonely and troubled minds.
The sexualization of the Western culture and its almost complete loss of humility and modesty represents a most bizarre development. The exploding growth of internet pornography touches on these very matters. Romance and courting are out of the question. A quick glance at the iPhone app gives you access to whoever is physically nearby, to make the arrangement for casual sex, often right there and then. To know someone by name is not needed. And people brag about it.
Statistics show that 83 percent of the porn addicts are men. Statistics cited in Psychology Today show that 56 percent of all divorces involve one party having an obsession with pornography. A few decades ago, the only porn available consisted of pictures of naked women in magazines that had to be purchased at stores – and hidden under beds. Now, 10-year-olds grow up with hardcore porn, an internet click away. Things you had to go to adult sex clubs to watch a few years back are right there on your computer. How does this affect the mind of the young? The extent of the use of porn is illustrated by The Telegraph, which referred to a study claiming researchers could not find one man who had not watched porn. Ninety percent watched porn on the internet.
Puzzlingly enough, hardly anyone reacts, Christians included. At least, mainstream media do not refer to it. It seems almost impossible to get men, or women for that matter, to engage in this debate publicly. Time magazine’s notorious report a few years ago showed that approximately 70 percent of all internet clicks go toward porn, and that an estimated 420 million adult webpages exist online. Even if the number might be too high, other surveys show around 40 percent of all clicks go toward porn. And experts testify that this degree of coarse hedonism is dangerously addictive.
The effects of pornography on the brain have been labeled as “toxic,” analogous to drug addictions. Psychologists have long claimed that prolonged exposure to pornography causes the need for stronger stimuli in order to get sexually aroused. Such over-stimuli lead to what was formally called “perversions,” including group sex and other excess sexual activities, sadomasochistic practices including the active use of pain and suffering as stimuli for orgasm, or bestiality – sexual intercourse with animals. All readily accessible on the internet. Still, hardly anyone reacts. It represents a baffling and almost unbelievable apathy among ordinary citizens.
Maybe the lack of reaction is due to the degree of pornographic consumption among people in general. It may be hard to stop – or even talk about – because too many simply love it. Surveys seem to point in that direction, and modern technology is a factor. According to New York Times, one in three women watch porn weekly. On a global scale, pornography is more than a $100 billion industry; 66 percent of men under the age of 34 watch pornography at least monthly, and 40 percent of women are involved in cyber-pornographic behavior.
Anne Layden, co-director of Sexual Trauma and Psychopathology at the University of Pennsylvania, called “pornography the most concerning thing to psychological health that I know of existing today,” according to Wired.com. It should be quite clear to most rational people that not all forms of sexual contact produce healthy marriages and good lives. The fear is that in the end, the ability to love is lost.